married w/children.. Oo, or not.. ;p |
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 Deus-Ex MachinA  Group: Neophyte Caste Posts: 668 Joined: 8-June 03 From: everywhere.. Member No.: 44  |
how does everyone here feel about marriage; also, is it within your life's plan to be married & have children in the upcoming future - or, do you feel that marriage is not for you?
in essence, where do you stand? |
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May 31 2004, 07:55 PM
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 Revolution to the Destruction Group: Paragon Caste Posts: 2007 Joined: 14-March 03 From: The Black Spiral Member No.: 21 |
I'm (supposedly) the last one in my family to pass on our name. My parents are cool enough to care more about my personal happiness than passing on genes. Marriage just sounds too complicated and expensive. Throw a kid in the mix, and those numbers just go up and up.
Don't get sick a lot now? Wait till you bring home that little human petri dish from the hospital. Think parenting is tough now? Wait till 5 or 10 years from now. You can't even lay a hand on a kid without them suing you. Kids nowadays are smart-mouthed belligerent punks. When/if the fatherhood thing happens to me, I'll be damned if I let my kids grow up like that. Me tying the noose? Having kids? Probably not. If I want sex, there's always Vegas. The price of a hooker is actually less than that of a wife over time. I know this isn't the response one would expect from the son of a married couple of nearly 25 years. -------------------- "Computers are incredibly fast, accurate and stupid. Human beings are incredibly slow, inaccurate and brilliant. Together they are powerful beyond imagination." -Albert Einstein |
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May 31 2004, 08:40 PM
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 Badass Billionaire Extraordanaire Group: Paragon Caste Posts: 969 Joined: 13-December 02 From: NYC Member No.: 4 |
Whatever happens, happens.
I'm not expecting anything magical to happen. I'm always down for marriage and raising a family, but that doesn't mean it will happen. If I die a single man, I won't be surprised. I doubt it though. |
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May 31 2004, 08:46 PM
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 Show-off Group: Arbiter Caste Posts: 853 Joined: 23-December 02 From: Sin City Member No.: 10 |
I don't plan on marriage, I have my reasons.
I'm not exactly the parenting type, nor am I the one to hold my attention solely on one person the rest of my life. --------------------  |
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May 31 2004, 09:37 PM
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 Holding these random memories Group: Magister Posts: 3466 Joined: 14-December 02 From: Utah Member No.: 8 |
As of right now, even thinking of marrying someone is light years beyond the level of commitment and responsibility I'm ready for.
As far as kids goes: I hate babies. They stink and they are ALL ugly. Little kids aren't any better, and working in an Arcade for a year merely tempered my distaste for them. If there were some way that you could get like a 10 year old kid, who knew how to wipe their ass and had their shit together, then maybe I'd want one. And none of those fucked up ugly orphans who nobody wants till they are 10, or those foster kids who will murder me when I sleep. --------------------  Steam: MrCrushin PSN : MrCrushin XBL: Mr Crushin I'm not a playa I just crush a lot. |
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May 31 2004, 10:06 PM
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 Hyper Frame Group: Paragon Caste Posts: 489 Joined: 12-October 03 From: Brooklyn, NY Member No.: 67 |
I've never been a fan of the traditional family of 4.5, with white-picket fences and dog named Spot type. In fact, the thought of marriage makes me very uncomfortable, and I think always will. In reality, I think more people than will care do admit see the ludicriousness in needing a state's mark of approval for the relationship to be considered "official," or to save a bit on tax returns. Regardless, one thing I've noticed is that a certain level of promised commitment often leads to mistreatment of the partner. It doesn't necessarily have to be as serious as domestic violence, but the realization that this person won't simply leave because there's a legal document keeping the two of you together. In essense, they stay because it's convenient, not because of love, which can lead to bigger problems.
Conclusively, it's entirely possible to have a life-mate without the need for marriage. -------------------- "So this Zealot comes to my door, all glazed eyes and clean reproductive organs, asking me if I ever think about God. So I tell him I killed God. I tracked God down like a rabid dog, hacked off his legs with a hedge trimmer, raped him with a corncob and boiled off his corpse in an acid bath. So he pulls an alternating-current taser on me and tells me that only the Official Serbian Church of Tesla can save my polyphase intrinsic electric field, known to non-engineers as 'the soul.' So I hit him. What would you do?" -- Warren Ellis, Transmetropolitan
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May 31 2004, 10:27 PM
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Show-off Group: Arbiter Caste Posts: 853 Joined: 23-December 02 From: Sin City Member No.: 10 |
Finally someone that thinks like me. I got friends like that here, happy as clams for years, and decided not to marry. -------------------- |
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Jun 1 2004, 08:58 AM
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 green and square Group: Paragon Caste Posts: 897 Joined: 19-June 03 From: Austin, TX Member No.: 49 |
Well, speaking as somone who has been married now for a long time. It's safe to say that I am very very happily married to a person I cannot even consider living without. That said, i have no problem with people not being married but living together forever. I didn't get married because of taxes or children or church or any other reason other than I really wanted to proclaim my feelings for my wife to all my friends and family.
Kids? Completely other story. I'm not a big fan of them. I don't hate kids, I just don't really understand them. maybe it's because I am nothing more than an oversized kid myself. Plus, there are alot of things about this world that I don't want to burden a child with. There was a time when my wife and I talked about having a baby, but the more we talked about it the more we agreed that it was just not for us. If we change our minds, we still have a few more years, and there is always adoption. ok DivA, like always... don't ask unless you are gonna tell yourself. 
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 Jun 1 2004, 09:39 AM
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Deus-Ex MachinA Group: Neophyte Caste Posts: 668 Joined: 8-June 03 From: everywhere.. Member No.: 44 |
i'll always ask, that's part of the fun after all.. ^^ *reflects* marriage in this day & age, i cannot see it nor even consider the possibility in times ahead; dunno why exactly - that's why i posted, i was wondering if others felt the same way...many blessings to those that are, though that might be a rarity these days.. i guess knowledge is my one joy in life, far more than playing the wedding game; how odd is that? as far as children go - word has it that it's quite painful.. ;p in the meantime, i'll experience babies through observation of those around me.. |
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Jun 1 2004, 11:59 AM
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Soul Frame Group: AT Certified Posts: 150 Joined: 29-March 04 From: Massachusetts Member No.: 137 |
Pfft. Women are evil. They live to make other women miserable, for the most part. I have 2 kids...and believe me when I say it's nothing like ANY story I was told WHILE PREGNANT, by those just DYING to see me twitch in fear. I still to this day get up and walk away when conversation turns to their HORRIBLE *sob poor me sob* deliveries, because it's just a stupid bitch fest competition that is so unkind to those who haven't gone through it yet. I did 'em both...csection and natural. I've had migraines that hurt worse, and did not give me the treasures that labor did. Women are EVIL. *shakes head* |
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Jun 4 2004, 08:32 AM
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 Local Ham product Group: AT Certified Posts: 203 Joined: 1-February 04 From: Salt Lake City, UT Member No.: 119 |
I've been dating the same girl for nearing two years now.
I wouldn't get married. I don't see a point in it (save tax benefits etc.) I also don't understand any sort of necessity of it. Why do people get married? Some people say "they want to spend the rest of their lives together" if that's the case then how come I strain to think of anyone whose parents are still together? Mine aren't. I've heard people say "because it'll keep our relationship together" again I have to think about my parents, they were together 20+ years, 10 of those years they hated each other. If you need marriage to keep your relationship together then there is something wrong with your relationship and I definatly don't believe you should plan on spending your life with that person. Marriage might be alright for some people, just not me. I'm lucky to be with someone who feels the same way. I like kids, maybe someday I'll have my own. At this point, I'm 20, I like worrying about paying my rent, playing my FFXI and spending good times with friends and keeping a nice balance between responible and off the wall. I have few long term plans and don't make enough money to even think about supporting a kid. As for now I'm against it. Talk to me about 10 years down the line I might see things a bit differently. -Alex --------------------  Hamtaru FFXI (retired) 75 rng 65 nin 37 war 34 bst 26 rdm 18 whm 16 blm 12 mnk 91 Woodworking 60 alchemy 60 bonecraft 60 goldsmithing 40 smithing |
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Jun 4 2004, 08:35 AM
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Local Ham product Group: AT Certified Posts: 203 Joined: 1-February 04 From: Salt Lake City, UT Member No.: 119 |
If my last post didn't make sense. Please reread this post...that'll about some it up. -------------------- Hamtaru FFXI (retired) 75 rng 65 nin 37 war 34 bst 26 rdm 18 whm 16 blm 12 mnk 91 Woodworking 60 alchemy 60 bonecraft 60 goldsmithing 40 smithing |
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Jun 4 2004, 08:41 AM
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 King Lyrical Group: Neophyte Caste Posts: 103 Joined: 18-January 04 From: Arkansas Member No.: 116 |
I DO want a boy. I know it'd probably be hell, but I think I'd have an easier time teaching a boy what I know than a girl. As far as marriage....it doesn't jump out @ me, but @ the same time, I could see myself getting married. It would just HAVE TO BE to the right person.
-------------------- Even though I haven't reached lyrical perfection,
I'm still vibing through my words and artistic expression, I took the wrong path, I needed some correction, I haven't reached my goal, but I'm headed in the right direction ~lyrical.dreams A.K.A. Frosty My vision fades out and I start to dream, It brings realizations that things aren't necessarily what they seem, Me, myself, and I all head this one-man team, I'm here to gain knowledge, not all that C.R.E.A.M. ~lyrical.dreams A.K.A. Frosty Cash Rules Everything Around Me Phantasy Star Online Levels for Lyrical .::Frosty (HUcast)::......:34+::. |
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Jun 4 2004, 01:43 PM
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 Soul Hunter Group: Magister Posts: 2208 Joined: 10-April 03 From: NJ Member No.: 23 |
I would love to have my own child weather it be boy or girl. Simply because I have a grim view and I would want to make sure that the human race has a hope in its future.
Personally, I want to change the world. Hopefully for the better, I mean I know I deserve better then what I have now, and there are so many people I have met who are going through even harder times then me, and deserve more then what life has handed them. Everytime I hear of someones problems It hearts my heart that someone is going through such a hard path; I wish there where something I could do for them... I don't know, maybe Im just an idealist but I just want to make sure that we as a human race can find that peace and prosperity that all people search to find, but very few ever find. Marriage is another thing. I would like to get married some day but, I have the view that women in general are evil. So I mostly just enjoy them instead of getting serious with them. Maybe if I where to meet the right girl... -------------------- "Brotherhood asked for no friendship, only loyalty. They stood back to back as the galaxy burned - always brothers, never friends; traitors together unto the last." --an Excerpt from a Night Lords Novel Void Stalkers Chapter X: Revenge |
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Jun 4 2004, 02:27 PM
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 Local 804 Group: Associates Posts: 737 Joined: 7-October 03 From: Brooklyn Member No.: 66 |
I would love to get married and have children. But since Astrid doesn't want eaither I'll just deal with it.
Husband and Wife are great titles I guess. But life mate is just as good. As for children I would like a girl, just cause I don't get allong with guys. But anyway, yea. |
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